The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson

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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson

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#1 New York Times BestsellerOver 1 million copies soldIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we've been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let's be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn't sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is-a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let's-all-feel-good mindset that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited-"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.

  • Author - Mark Manson
  • Publisher - HarperCollins Publishers
  • Publication date - 09-13-2016
  • Page count - 224
  • Hardcover
  • Adult
  • Personal Growth and Development
  • Product dimensions - 5.5 W x 8.3 H x 1 D
  • ISBN-13 - 9780062457714

Web ID: 4135558

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    Jul 10, 2023
    from IL, USA
    Not your typical self help book

    Informative, enjoyable, refreshing read. I really liked this book. It made me revaluate how much weight I put in certain situations. I tend to give to many f*cks about anything and everything even when its really not that important. I also enjoyed the humor in the book, I found myself laughing a few times

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    Sir Whistledown
    Jun 02, 2023
    from Waterbury, CT
    Offers a Different View on Self-Help

    I want to give this book 4.5/5 stars, not four. This book has many brilliant pieces to it. It will change the way you think; about yourself, about others, about situations that occur (both caused by you and not by you). It will teach you a sense of responsibility, among others things, while also allowing you to start thinking from a new perspective, a perspective that allows you to critique yourself honestly, without any malice. For that, this book is brilliant. However, I cannot give it 5 stars because there are some takes in here that I don't agree with. It took me a while to figure out if I didn't agree with them because of my mindset, or if they were just values that I could not compromise on. This book will teach you that this is okay and that eventually values could change (later on I could agree more with this book or less, only how I live my life will be able to determine this). The author is brilliant, however. If you take out certain takes that I find underdeveloped or flawed (again my opinion; this is my thinking during the book and could change, as the book addresses) the way the author writes is what makes the book to me. Mark Manson has a very bluntly unique writing style that is straight forward and doesn't leave you wondering on what he means. He adds personal anecdotes, stories about famous people/figures (some that are kinda out there that you'll be like huh? but it will make sense afterwards!), and teachings from people in his life. He makes all of these work. There is a lesson in every single one of them. I assure you each page will have you thinking something from "why the hell am I reading this?" to "maybe I should start doing this." If you are looking for a book that doesn't try to spoon-feed you how to "get better" this is a great one to pick up. This book has changed my thinking, and while I may not be at the stage of "not giving a f*ck," I have definitely become a person who cares less about people's opinions and a person who takes more responsibility for the problems in his life. This book will teach you to judge yourself before you judge others. It will take it a step forward and make you want to ask yourself why you're judging others. Is it insecurity? Are you just a jealous person? This book will allow you to learn that you can ask and answer these questions without feeling bad about it. If you want a book that will not pity you every step of the way and actually make you WANT to change, one that will give you insight in motivation and how you are your inspiration and motivation then this one is for you. If you want a book that will teach you to be more true to yourself and set realistic values to live by, this book is for you. While I don't recommend copying every single take and view on life Mark Manson writes in this book, I do recommend truly thinking about every perspective he shares here--especially the ones that make you uncomfortable or the ones that you passionately disagree with. Ask yourself: why? why does this bring out so much emotion from me? why do I like/dislike this? what about this gets under my skin? and many more questions that will pop up in your head while reading this. Be honest with yourself because you'll never be able to grow if you can't first learn to be raw and truthful with yourself. Failure is not absolute and this book ensures that.

    Customer review from
    May 29, 2023
    Great Book

    A lot of helpful concepts written in a way that is easy to understand. :)

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    Jan 21, 2023
    from MN

    Eh. This book was ok. The author had some helpful points and ideas on how to change your mindset. I appreciated some of the ideas regarding fault vs. responsibility, self improvement and success and relationships and setting boundaries. However, some of the ideas are a bit too black and white and can’t be applied to all situations, especially as he was referring to intimate relationships. Maybe self-help books are just not for me but this one came off as preachy and with an attitude of “I have life figured out and let me tell you how to figure out yours as well.” For example, he said that he, unlike most men, will tell his wife when she doesn’t look good because that is the honest thing to do. That is a fine line there and women are more than their looks. Something tells me if his wife started telling him when he doesn’t look good that he might actually “give a f—-” about that. Also, I don’t mind swear words in books usually but the use of the f-bombs in this book repeatedly got old. This feels like the equivalent as describing something as “good” or “bad” for the entire book. I would have maybe enjoyed it more if there was more expanse in emotional expression. Overall, it was somewhat insightful but in no way life changing and at times irritating.

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    Feb 04, 2021
    from Minneapolis, MN
    Relatable and Funny Personal Growth Book

    I can definitely see myself re-reading this one. I think I have struggled with personal growth & development books in the past because they come across as way too clean. I like that the writing felt personal and very honest, and the author wasn't afraid to curse if the topic of discussion warranted it. I shouldn't be surprised by that, given the title, but I think I was just surprised to see it carry through to the extent it was. I find myself having a much easier time with non-fiction in general if I feel like the author is relatable for me, and the frequent cursing, as well as similar mindset and approach to life, made me enjoy it much more than expected. I think this will end up being a book that I reread multiple times!

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    Backstreet Boy
    Jun 01, 2020
    from Washington, DC
    Good not great

    An entertaining read but one that I could put down, a lot of what Mark writes about I found to be pretty common sense but the way he wrote about it was fun and uplifting. A good read if you want to chuckle.

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    May 04, 2020
    from Wake Forest, NC
    Amazing Book

    I was going to write an in depth review, but I just don’t give a fu*k.

    Customer review from
    Apr 29, 2020
    from Illinois
    Dudebros, you're self-help book is here!

    As the title suggests, Mark Manson won't give a thought about my review. He's confident and found his way in life. He has written two very successful books and that's fantastic! What I think does not matter in his life, nor should it. But reviews are not about the author. These are for potential readers. My advice: DON'T READ THIS BOOK. Why? Because Manson, while clearly well-read and understanding of philosophy and psychology, he's also superficial. Painfully so. The first four chapters are filled with his personal life stories and his attitude. He uses as much crass profanity as he can. His descriptions and judgment of people he's known or seen in his life will make your skin crawl if you have respect for others. He ignores all life struggles that evolve from poverty, abuse, or mental health issues. Instead, he jumps to the easy "entitled" label and runs with it. The true vulgarity--Manson's complete lack of compassion while spewing that not giving a ___ makes you compassionate. So why did I give this horrendous book two stars instead of one? After the first four chapters, his profanities subsided and *gasp* Manson began to espouse valid philosophical concepts. The last five chapters of the book, he managed to show that beneath his thick layer of dudebro garbage, he's capable of meaningful thought and comprehension. He finally gives a nod to deeper issues (ignores poverty and barely touches on abuse recovery or mental health disorders, but he did at least mention them). His points--while poorly coated with more self-indulgent, back-handed bragging about his wild days and how he got to his success--are actually valid. Choosing intentional actions, guiding your thoughts away from self-deprecation, finding value in your life that actually has value and meaning are spot on. The struggle though? Manson maintains a superficial life and he assumes the reader is exactly like him. His mind would be blown to discover that people who have low self-esteem rarely blame others for their problems, but rather themselves. Manson, according to Manson, is entitled and so is the rest of the world. Sorry, dudebro, no. This book is harmful to anyone who is genuinely hurting from deep internal struggles. It's poison. Manson will offend and attack your mental state. Really. -He uses a bullying tactic of belittling and trivializing what life issues the reader (and his fans) to build himself up. He refers to women as things, rarely appearing in his book aside from referencing their concern about appearance or as things he used for one-night stands until he met his wife. (Note: His wife is a woman who spends an hour working on her appearance and he'll tell her she missed the mark so she can fix it.) -There's the woman in the last chapter he kept noting was Asian. It had no purpose to be mentioned but felt really off that he kept bringing up her ethnicity when that had no bearing on the story. - He refers to sleeping on sofas and relying on others to take care of him, but he never mentions caring about what he took from them. Who took care of him during those years when he says he had an overdrawn bank account, yet worried about making a weekly trip to McDonald's? He talks about how he made a successful life on his own. All on his own. There's no mention of gratitude nor any note that he cared to reciprocate the kindness from the people who care about him. For anyone with compassion, this man's advice will grate on your soul. Honestly, if you're looking for profane life advice, please seek George Carlin's old comedy routines. You'll actually be a better person for it.

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